Do Your Financial Choices Reflect the Life You Really Want...Or?
When you set a goal, it’s usually connected to something you don’t yet have — or to an experience you’re looking forward to having.
As a result, your attention naturally gravitates toward two points in time: the present and some moment in the future.
And if you follow traditional goal setting practices, your focus is likely fixed on what you need to do to close the gap — that space between:
where you are vs. where you want to be,
or what you have vs. what you want.
But as my clients know, I don’t believe the gap gets enough love.
Most people grow impatient with the gap.
And honestly? I fall into that trap, too — wanting the distance between where I am and where I want to be collapsed…especially when a goal is taking far longer than my original timeline.
But the reminder I offer myself is the same one I offer my clients — and now to you, too:
It’s just as important to understand who you need to become as it is to know what you need to do.
Because achieving meaningful goals isn’t simply a matter of ticking tasks off your to-do list.
If the goals you’ve set are truly expansive, they almost always require some version of personal evolution.
The Gap Is Where the Real Work Lives
And that evolution unfolds in the gap.
But the gap isn’t just a waiting room between where you are and where you want to be.
It’s where the real work lives.
Because the gap is where you:
tackle the beliefs that shape your expectations,
challenge the perspectives that define what feels possible,
interrupt habits that quietly reinforce your current reality,
and begin making choices that align with who you’re becoming — not just who you’ve been.
And the gap is not passive.
It’s deeply active.
Even when progress feels invisible.
This is also why Successful, Profitable… and Not Broke isn’t structured as a quick-fix coaching engagement.
Because sustainable financial — and business — change rarely happens from strategy alone.
It happens when you’re willing to examine — and reshape — the beliefs, behaviors, boundaries, and decision patterns that show up in the gap.
Not just what you’re doing.
But how you’re thinking.
How you’re choosing.
And who you’re becoming in the process.
It’s why, at the end of many speaking engagements, I often ask:
“How do you want your money to support who you’re becoming next?”
It’s also why today’s reflection asks whether your financial choices actually reflect the life you say you want.
Because far too often, here’s what I witness:
People making financial choices that don’t reflect the life or business they’re actually trying to build.
Instead, their decisions primarily reinforce:
a slightly improved version of their current reality,
their existing comfort level,
their current financial capacity,
their perceived limitations.
But the goals that genuinely light you up?
They rarely ask you to remain comfortable.
They almost always require that you stretch — intellectually, emotionally, behaviorally, and yes…financially.
Because growth doesn’t just demand new actions.
It often demands a new relationship with risk, capacity, identity, and possibility.
Reflection Time
If you’re open to a moment of reflection:
Are your current financial choices supporting your future — or primarily stabilizing your present?
Where might comfort be quietly shaping your decisions?
What belief about money, risk, or capacity might be ready for revision?
Which habits reinforce the version of life you’re trying to outgrow?
Who are you becoming that your current choices don’t yet reflect?
And perhaps the most revealing question:
What would need to change — financially or behaviorally — for your choices to align with the life you say you want?
If you need help answering that question, try a simple visualization exercise:
Imagine three years have passed and you’re looking back over those years to today. Let the future version of you gently pull the present version forward.
Because financial alignment isn’t only about reaching a goal.
It’s about becoming someone whose choices consistently reflect the life they’re intentionally building.
About Jacquette
I love to ask questions and spark aha moments. I love to talk about why success with money is about more than just the numbers, and how the cultural impact on the intersection of money, business, and life matters–A LOT! And, I really hope I help people feel seen, heard, and not judged—especially since money is emotional and personal.
