Tomorrow is Thanksgiving here in the U.S. – one of my favorite holidays! And I’m doubly-excited because it falls on my birthday this year…yippee!!
As I think of Thanksgiving and my birthday, I am reminded to pause, reflect and really acknowledge all that I am grateful for.
I am also reminded of the equation that matters most, in my opinion:
R > E where “R” stands for “relationships” and “E” stands for “everything else” – literally!
Without relationships, it all falls apart because relationships are where it all begins – personally, professionally and, yes, even financially. As we slow down (even if just slightly) to unplug and spend time with family and friends, I want you to know how important our relationship is to me.
Whether you read every post or do so occasionally, you’re here and that means the world to me! Each time you make the choice to “hear” me, you are giving me a chance to give (did you catch that?!) — it’s like the gift that keeps on giving
So, thank you very, very much – for being a part of my world and for letting me a part of yours!
From my family to yours, Happy Thanksgiving! May your holiday be one filled with yummy food and spirits, fun, forgiveness, compassion, meaning, and so much laughter that your sides ache!
p.s. if you’re one of the brave souls participating in Black Friday, you might wish to check out my segment on Arise.TV about “Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, and Cyber Monday.” You may learn a trick or two…
One of the things I love about my work is that I get to be part of the lives of a diverse group of people. With them, I co-create practical, sustainable solutions that shape how money impacts their lives – today and in the future.
Each person – whether a client; book, blog, or magazine reader; social media follower; or TV viewer – comes to the table with their own unique circumstances, questions, concerns, challenges, goals, and dreams.
Despite this diversity, there’s one thing they seem to have in common: they all suffer from what I call the knowledge trap – aka…
…they think they know what they have.
Like them, you probably think you know what you have, too!
I say “think” because it’s not that you are completely in the dark. You’re just are not aware of a “small” but extremely important detail. It’s a very innocent mistake, one that is obscured by what you do know and the fact that for the most part you’re likely doing all the “right” things.
The Gospel of Personal Finance
You don’t spend more than you earn, but you also don’t really know where your money is coming from or where it’s going.
Like my client who is operating at a profit, but doesn’t know where $10,000 went.
You invest – be it in your retirement plan or in a brokerage account – but you don’t really know much about your investments.
Like my client who owns twenty mutual funds, but didn’t know one-quarter of them were investing in the exact same stocks.*
Your debt is not too overwhelming, so you just focus on cutting expenses.
Like my client who did this and didn’t realize that the real solution wasn’t simply in cutting back. They didn’t have a debt problem, per se…they were an under-earner who needed to figure out how to earn more.
Do any of these examples strike a cord? If not, then think about where you might be suffering from thinking you know what you have. Questions like, “What’s missing?” or “What more do I need to know about…?” are great ways to help unlock the answers.
The knowledge trap often creates a knowledge gap – the one small detail you’re missing because it’s overshadowed by what you do know.
I see this happening all the time, especially when it comes to investing…especially when the stock market is at an all time high – like right now! Ironically, this is precisely when the knowledge trap (and gap) tends to increase.
Hence, the reason I’m offering – “From Dumb Luck to Smart & Savvy: How to be a Success Mutual Fund Investor.”
To learn more and to click here.
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Much of what I do involves working with people pondering a decision. The root of which either affects their finances or is affected by them. In other words, we pretty much end up talking about and strategizing on almost everything concerning life!
“I have six figures sitting in a savings account earning a measly .015%; what should I do?
“I need to invest; I have money to invest; I just don’t know where to begin and I don’t trust the stock market?
“I’m lucky because I make more than enough, but I have poor savings habits.”
“I need to get out of debt!”
“How do I determine how much to save if we’re planning to buy a house, or start a family, or start a business, or….?”
“I’m getting a divorce and have to start over…and he managed all our finances…”
What’s Different is Actually the Same
The decisions they are looking to make and the questions they are contemplating are varied. But when they come to me with these and other questions like these, they are yearning for the same thing: information. And even though they don’t say it specifically, they also want assurance said information will help them make the right decision.
Gathering (more) information is usually what you do before making a decision; when you wish to increase your knowledge about a topic or issue; or when you simply want to feed your curiosity.
I suspect when you choose to read my blog posts, that you, too, are yearning for information – at least to some degree. Likewise, you may want another outlet to confirm you are doing it – whatever “it” is – right.
More information is certainly what I wanted last week when I was asked to make a decision I felt woefully unprepared to make. And, I definitely wanted to be right.
There was a part of me – the part I voiced to the person on the other side of the phone that said: “I don’t have enough information…” The other part of me – the part that remained silent – recalled the wise words from one of my favorite professors from business school.
Prof. Simaan taught corporate finance. And during one of his office hours when I went to kvetch about the class’s case study assignment (Chrysler’s warrants), he said this: “Jacquette, do you ever have all the information you need to make a decision?” He went on further to say how he wasn’t interested in whether I got the “right” answer; rather, he wanted to know how I thought and see how I defended my thesis. From that point forward, things shifted for me in that class, and I’m proud to say I got an “A.”
What he did for me with that single question (err: challenge) is what I hope I do for everyone whom I have the privilege to coach, train, teach, or influence in some way.
Insight > Information
In my eyes, that means getting you to see that information, alone, is never enough.
Indeed, one of the problems I see today is people falsely believing that more information is what will lead to the making of a better decision. It’s understandable — it’s a sign of our times, with access to so much information at our fingertips 24/7.
But there’s a danger to just chasing after (more) information because: information does not equal insight.
Information tends to make us feel better because it’s easier to measure the data and facts we’re collecting; it’s “outer-focused” and more objective.
Insight, on the other hand, is less easy to measure using typical quantifiable metrics. It’s more obtuse because it taps into your intuition, emotions, and instinct. But what makes insight more powerful than information alone is that it…
- is the foundation for making smarter decisions;
- drives your behavior and shapes how you act upon information;
- helps you get comfortable with the information you don’t know and may never know;
- helps you filter out the information you don’t need and focus on what you retain;
- reminds you to consider how you’ll feel both the moment before you make a decision & the moments after you choose.
Here’s the deal: You rarely ever have a shortage of information. More likely, you might lean toward feeling overwhelmed by all the information available to you.
And you just might feel frustrated that even with all this information you still feel like you’re missing an important piece of the puzzle.
That missing piece is insight.
While information may be the first thing you seek when you’re pondering a decision, it’ll behoove you to seek (more) insight. It’ll serve you well.
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What does self-love look like to you?
How do you know when you’re practicing it?
Do you think it is selfish to practice self-love?
When I write, I fancy myself with the notion that I’m writing about topics you and I would actually discuss over coffee or a cocktail. I picture a lively conversation; I see us agreeing and disagreeing; I see us laughing, as well as being contemplative.
Yet, there are times when I wonder if the conversations I’m initiating hit the mark – or if I’ve pushed the envelope a bit too far (like with last week’s post, “Head, Heart, Hormones“). Yes, I was slightly nervous about pressing “publish” on that one…
But then I get private emails, and I know all is well.
Based on the responses I received to last week’s post and to the week’s before about the false intimacy that ensues when people practice credit-card dating, it is even more evident that as individuals, couples, and a society, we have a lot of healing to do!
First Love, Then Money
One email I received put the whole credit-card dating ridiculousness in (historical) perspective with this:
“…if potential mates were initially screened and selected based on financial status as measured by credit scores, the black race could be seriously at risk.”
Man, talk about an emotional landmine. I could write an entire book about the social, economic, and familial issues raised in her less than 140 characters comment. In fact, her words remind me of one of the profiles in my book, Patrice: Her great-grandmother, who was born in the late 1800s, graduated college, became a nurse, and started a home-care nursing business. She married a school custodian. This is why, in part, I chuckle about the tremendous amount of attention the whole she earns more phenomenon has gotten in the last decade. It’s something the Black American population has been dealing with for many, many years.
If her great-grandmother had put money before love, Patrice wouldn’t have her particular life-story to tell.
First You, Then Them
“…what about those of us who are single – whether by choice or circumstance? We may not be in a relationship, but we’re just as interested in getting it right with our money and want to know what to look for so we are ready when the relationship happens – if it does.”
He is right, of course.
I wholeheartedly believe that you cannot create a healthy relationship with another person – on any level – until you’ve done so with yourself first. Don’t love yourself; hard to truly love another. Don’t have a healthy relationship with money on your own; hard to do so when you factor in someone else and the issues they bring to the table. (And yes, I’m ever mindful that we are all a work in progress.)
What his question and comment made me realize is that I need to get better at making sure you understand that when I talk about the concepts and practice of financial intimacy and love + money, you get that I believe it always starts first with you!
And therein lies a little wrinkle: You and I could probably benefit from a higher dose of me first in the form self-love.
On whatever day you’re reading this, pause right now, think about your day thus far, how many choices and actions did you take in the spirit of taking care of you, of nurturing you and only you?
How might your daily experiences change if you upped the ante and increased your self-love choices and actions by a factor of one? How about the condition of your finances? What could you give birth to if you made financial choices more from a space of self-love?
Truth is: the well for you to give (and give even more) to others is deeper when you first give to yourself in ways small and large.
Think this is all poppy-cock and woo-woo? Take look at your account balances – they’ll tell you in cold hard numbers whether you’ve been choosing by way of the paradigm of “first you, then them.” (By the way, “them” could be people, work, business, or volunteering – it’s anyone or anything whose needs you’re placing above your own…it”s anything that is causing you to insidiously sabotage your wellness on any level.)
Here’s to all of us practicing more first love, then money; first you, then them!
p.s. the idea of first love, then money; first you, then them is one of best ways to make the triangle of you, love, and money work. For specific ideas and tips, join me for Money, a Menage a Trois – Wednesday, 30 October at 8pm EST. Click here to register.
p.p. s. Master the Language of Love + Money – an interactive online course for couples (and interested singles – smile) ready to create a brand new relationship with their money…and each other begins November 4th!
photo credit: Google images & Inspireyourdreams.com
I have some friends whose relationship I absolutely adore. They’ve been together more than 30-years.
Some relationships of this length look tired and weary, absent of demonstrative love, smiles, fun and joy.
Not my friends – you can tell they are still each other’s best friend; that they truly enjoy each other’s company; and that they also probably have an active and steamy sex life.
I’m not delusional; plus, I’m close enough to them that when I’m around they don’t hide when they are mad at each other. So, I know a relationship like theirs doesn’t just happen – they both work at it. But as an “outsider” looking in, they make the work seem effortless – even the work of managing the intersection of love and money, including the dynamic of she earns more.
Spend any time with them and it becomes pretty evident that their relationship is operating with all cylinders – head, heart, and hormones – in sync. It’s a beautiful thing to witness.
When couples come to me for financial coaching, they say things like…
“I would like to learn about how to invest our money, how to spend it together and separately, how to save…”
“…However, our emotional issues and different values are holding us back from partnering ahead…”
“We have big differences when it comes to money, finances, spending, budgeting, saving, debt, etc. We don’t understand what these differences are or the underlying bases or root causes…”
“We don’t agree on investment vehicles, risk tolerance, etc. Therefore, we don’t have a long-term financial plan and always fail at adhering to short-term strategies.”
Do any of these sentiments sound remotely familiar?
“Don’t Disturb This Groove”
Here’s the deal: No matter how you slice it, what these couples are really, in essence, saying is, “we are not operating on all cylinders – we are not in sync when it comes to our money…”
Ultimately, money challenges have disrupted the understanding they have – it has interrupted the rhythm and personality that makes their relationship theirs. So much so that they need outside intervention.
Out of all the couples I’ve coached over these many years, only one has admitted that financial stress is affecting their sexual intimacy. But let’s face it, it had to have been an issue to some degree for some of the other couples.
After all, it’s kinda hard to feel sexy and attractive when you’re stressed about money or pissed about what your sweetie did (or didn’t do) or both. Likewise, it’s kinda hard to escape the fact that sex and intimacy are forms of communication – it’s how you and your sweetie connect and express your “secret” language in ways no one in the outside world would be privy to. Yeah, we’re having a grown folk conversation today
And in a few weeks, I’m hosting a webinar to ensure your head, heart and hormones are in sync. Because money does affect your sex life and a healthy sex life is just as important an ingredient to having a healthy relationship as all the other domains of your relationship.
So, if you don’t want money to disturb your groove (The System, anyone?!) — if you want to dial up your sexy, then join me on Wednesday, 30 October at 8pm EST. Click here to register.
p.s. Master the Language of Love + Money – an interactive online course for couples ready to create a brand new relationship with their money…and each other begins November 4th!
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There is a trend happening when it comes to the matter of talking about love and money.
You may have noticed it as well. Heck, it may even be a bandwagon you’ve jumped on.
It’s a trend, however, that I find disturbing. Because I believe it is causing couples to miss the whole point of the purpose and intent of talking about love and money.
Paul Carrick Brunson, one of the people I follow on Twitter, who works as a modern-day matchmaker and is the co-host of LoveTown on the OWN network, shared a link to, “Bad Credit: A Deal Breaker for Many Singles.” It reminded me of a related piece that appeared in the New York Times almost a year ago – “Perfect 10? Never Mind That. Ask Her for Her Credit Score.” There have been countless other articles like these, recently — articles that put a spotlight on a particular number: one’s credit score.
My problem isn’t with the question of asking about someone’s credit score. That is certainly important information to (eventually) know.
My problem is with the timing and the seemingly associated judgment without context.
False sense of intimacy
People who proclaim they “won’t even give someone their digits until they know their date’s credit score,” are missing a critical point: intimacy is earned…over time!
Intimacy – financial or otherwise – it is not something to which you are entitled from the other person.
And the connection that leads to intimacy is formed from shared experiences. This is how intimacy is earned. Otherwise, at least in my opinion, it falls into the false sense of intimacy category. And if you’ve ever done online dating and invested a lot of emotional time via email sharing your deepest desires and secrets only to discover, when you finally meet in person, there is absolutely no spark, you know precisely what I mean.
I believe a false sense of intimacy is just as damaging to your emotional health as the absence of intimacy where you wished it existed.
Context is everything
The other thing I find alarming about the trend of asking about credit scores before you’ve even had a chance to get to know someone is that you don’t have context. You’re evaluating the character of a person based purely on a number (and one that fluctuates, to boot!) without much regard as to why the number is what it is.
It could be that the person lacks financial discipline and that would be an issue. But the person’s unattractive-to-you credit score could also be due to a prolong period of unemployment or lengthy business slump or mounting medical bills or (fill in the blank with most anything unplanned and out of their control).
So, what’s the *real* problem + solution?
The trend of prematurely asking people about their credit score definitely disturbs me. But what is even more unsettling is how the media is treating this phenomenon — as if talking about credit scores is akin to really talking about love + money. Both instances miss the mark of the challenge couples (newly dating through to long-time married/partnered) face when it comes to managing this intersection: how to recognize what’s really going on when love+money are on the front-line.
I think one of the reasons for the trend of “credit score dating” (as it is called) harkens back to the fact that numbers are easier to focus on, digest, and discuss than the psychology and emotions behind the numbers.
But this trend is also probably gaining traction because far too often couples of all stripes don’t know how to really keep it real – they don’t know what to ask, when, and how. These are the reasons talking about money can be so damn awkward at times…for everyone!
If this is hitting home. If I’ve walked down your street and tapped on your door, here’s an exercise that may help…
Take a step back and start at the step before the questioning begins. It’s a step that involves spending some time unwrapping your sentiments and perceptions about money.
For each word that follows, write the first thought that comes to mind when you think of the word in relationship to money (don’t censor yourself!)
(The above list is taken from page 163 of my book, “Financial Intimacy.”)
Now, spend a day “observing” yourself, and each time you go into your wallet to pull out cash or your debit/credit card or find yourself in the midst of making a financial decision, notice which word, perception or sentiment comes to the forefront for you. Whatever surfaces for you in that moment, THAT is what you’re really dealing with when it comes to money – especially love + money.
Keep this in mind as it’s one of the best ways to avoid the trap of the trend that can lead couples to miss the whole point of the purpose and intent of talking about love and money..
Remember, talking about love + money is about engaging in on-going, love-based conversations. Not an interrogation.
p.s. coming soon: “Money, A Menage a Trois” a webinar designed to help make talking about love + money less awkward and yo make the act of managing + merging finances easier and more fun!
“I’m coming out. I want the world to know; Got to let it show… There’s a new me coming out…And I just feel so good” Diana Ross (lyrics from “I’m Coming Out”)
Today is the day…it’s my “coming out” party! Yay!! I am SO proud and excited to welcome you to my new gorgeous website!!
Earlier this year, you may remember I wrote about not knowing what you’re missing until you have what you never had.
That’s how I feel today.
I lovingly blame Stephanie Pollock for setting the ball in motion. During one of our coaching sessions, she said, “Jacquette, there’s nothing wrong with your website; it’s perfectly fine; it’s pretty; but I just don’t feel you. Where’s the vibrant, funny, bold, upbeat person I speak with every week.”
Until that conversation, I didn’t realize the fullness of my personality wasn’t coming through to my site, visually.
When someone, I knew she didn’t know, also expressed the same sentiment about five months later, it really hit me that she was onto something.
McKenzie Slaughter also thought my site was lacking a little “umph,” as they say. And once she got her hands on it, I then saw just how much of the quirky, funky, fun, “full of life,” sexy, side of me was in fact absent from the previous iterations of first sterlingchoices.net and then jacquettetimmons.com-v1.0.
Vessels for messages
Three different people, one of whom lives in another country, all with the same feedback about my website. Hmmm…
Soon, it would become clear that this wasn’t about a website – that was simply a trigger to get my attention.
No, this was about something deeper, bigger, yet subtle and significant.
Getting to this very special day involved a process of asking, reflecting on, and answering questions you and I need to revisit – from time to time.
Because whether the issue is related to business growth or financial growth, it is ultimately about personal growth.
Side note: it is my opinion that personal finance won’t be truly personal until individuals and the industry do a better job of acknowleging the personal growth element of money.
The questions I found myself addressing were: who am I; what do I stand for and what am I willing to stand in front of; what lights me up and who do I get the most excited about working with, to name a few.
For me, the hardest part of this process was quieting the voice that says (after a heavy exhale), “But I’ve already answered this…”
This is an area where I can be just like many of my clients: resistant.
Answering questions you think you already have answers to is one of the best ways to confront resistance; it’s one of the best ways to, ultimately, get out of your own way.
For me, the most beautiful part of this process was getting more and more comfortable in my own skin.
And as I am sure my dear friend and weekly accountability partner, Alexia Vernon, would attest to, this 18-month journey wasn’t so much about me finding my voice as it was embracing it.
Embracing it so that I can show the world all I that I am and all I can be.
Embracing it so that I can show up fully and give my all, give my best to everyone I serve be it via coaching, speaking, teaching, or writing.
So, here I am coming out. Inspired today more than ever by the words of the poet and Jesuit priest, Gerard Manley Hopkins:
“What I do is me, for that I came.”
Again, welcome to my new site. I truly appreciate that you are here and look forward to what comes next in our journey together.
p.s. crossing this finish line is made all the more sweet thanks to Stephanie Pollock, Payson Cooper, Tara Gentile, Jullien Gordon, and McKenzie Slaughter. There aren’t enough thanks-yous to fully express my gratitude, but I hope you each know how much I appreciate you and the role you played in my evolution.
p.p.p.s. remember, it is usually the case that the thing you really need to address is lurking just beneath the surface of what has grabbed your attention…
Ah, man…I wanted nothing more than to follow through on what I promised last week. To write and say, “Yeah baby, we’re live. Check out my new website!!”
But alas, I am not
We need a little more time.
The wait won’t be long, though; we will be ready to go live next week. However, my “announcement” post is not appropriate for today.
Everything has a rhythm
When I was thinking of what to write about instead, the lyrics of an old funk song by Parliament Funkadelic popped to mind: “…if it don’t fit, don’t force it…”
From the beginning, I have thought of this series of behind-the-scenes posts as “shadows.” Meaning: my intent for sharing the lessons I have learned, during this period of transformation, is/was so they could serve a purpose for you, too.
I guess this experience has another lesson for you and me to (re)learn.
I’m curious to know what you think it is; I think it is about timing and our relationship to waiting; acceptance; and control. And the practice of quieting the part of our ego that asks, “What will people think?” – but not in a healthy way.
Sometimes, things simply don’t work out the way you and I want…they don’t come to fruition according to a nice, neat timeline – even when you’re working from the best project plan and task list.
If you are a type-A, control-freak like me, this can be a bit of a problem. Resistance to what is is often a thorn in my side. When delays happen, the adage, “every delay is not a denial,” or, “now is not the time,” can sound so cliche-y. And they are the very last words I really want to hear. Yet, they are also wonderful reminders for another adage, “everything happens for a reason.”
Admittedly, I have no idea of what may be the cosmic reason we’re not ready to go live this week. It certainly isn’t because we haven’t been working diligently, that’s for sure! McKenzie and I have been burning the after-midnight oil.
But here’s what I do know:
To say that McKenzie Slaughter, of BrandUps, “gets” me is an understatement. Working with her has truly been a God-send.
And when you’re working with a creative genius who creates visuals like this:
…you can probably understand why I have ants in my pants and can hardly contain my excitement!!
So, barring any further delays, I’ll be back next week to show off the new look…woot-woot.
p.s. coming soon: the next round of Master the Language of Love + Money!
p.p.s. many thanks to Ginger Legon of the Leadership Program – click here to check us out talking about money + leadership.
photo credit: Google images
I’m an avid outdoor runner, as you most likely know. And this time of year is particularly exciting because Prospect Park is filled with the energy of running groups training for the New York City Marathon – training for how to finish a 26.2 mile race strong.
On a recent run, as I was approaching the end of my 3.3 mile loop, I behaved just like the person I was venting about in this Twitter post from earlier this year:
Can’t relate because you’re not a runner?
If you drive, the same thing happens when the car behind you moves to the left lane, speeds up to pass you, passes you, shifts back into your lane, and then slows down. Frustrating, right?
Run with endurance
Slowing down when picking up the pace might behoove you obviously isn’t confined to running or driving.
A similar phenomenon occurs when the goal or project on which you’ve been working is nearing an end and it’s beginning to look like your last effort is not going to be your best effort! Not good!!
Ironically, this usually happens because you’re approaching the finish line! Weird, right?
I think it’s due to fatigue – it grabs a hold of you and forces you to tap into every last bit of the reserve you have left. Now is also when upping your mindset game becomes critical – especially if you’re in it to win it, and can appreciate the idea that how you finish is just as important as how you start.
So…on the off-chance you need to employ the “runner’s kick” to help you achieve the goal or finish the project that popped to mind as you are reading this, propel yourself across the finish line by doing one or all of these:
- See beyond the moment – fatigue doesn’t just drain you of physical energy; it tends to cloud how well you think, too. Move your locus point beyond the moment when you want nothing more than to slow down (or, gasp, completely stop!) and let the “future” pull you toward it.
- Psyche yourself out – talk yourself to and across the proverbial finish line with the wonderful chant courtesy of “The Little Engine That Could” – “yes I can.” This storybook for children isn’t just for them and it’s a classic for a reason.
- Remember why you started this project or made this goal in the first place.
- Remember ALL the effort that got you here to this point.
- And when you cross the line, remember to say to yourself, “Well, done!”
The time is near
Next week is the week! The moment I’ve been working toward for months and that I’ve been referencing for weeks. It’ll be time to unveil version 2.0 of jacquettetimmons.com. Woo-hoo!! I am over the moon excited, and in need of a little “runner’s kick” inspiration myself. So, I’m off to take my own advice so I, too, can finish strong and do my part to ensure that what you see next week is my absolute best effort and not my next best…you know what I mean?
p.s. coming soon: the next round of Master the Language of Love + Money!
photo credit: Google images
If I’ve pegged you correctly, you’re freaking out just a wee-bit. It’s September, which got here a tad too quickly, and that means there are just four months left for you to accomplish the goals you intended to achieve by December 31st.
Unless you hang with a bunch of coaches or consultants, you’re probably not sitting around, sipping your favorite beverage, and saying, “I need to work on my vision to meet this year’s goals.”
It’s more like, “Time is flying; I still have a lot to do; and I need help with X…or I need to get better at Y, if…”
And one of the first places you’ve probably turned to look for that assistance is your smartphone.
If so, you know you have access to what feels like a gazillion apps. According to Google, there are approximately 900,000 iOS apps and 850,000 Android apps.
As you know, some of these are purely for entertainment; while others are designed to help you manage some aspect of your life – say tracking your money, setting and managing goals, tracking how much time you meditate, managing your fitness routine, etc.
With so many (and counting), there is an app for almost every need or want you may have – personally and professionally.
Me? I’m a sucker for organization apps and definitely suffer from the “bright, shiny object syndrome” when it comes to them.
My eyes are constantly wide open and on the lookout for the latest and greatest. Heck, just this week, I had to stop myself from signing up for a trial to test drive a new all-in-one project management + to-do list app.
Sometimes you need to press pause on the continuous search for the “next” thing and work with whatcha got!
As I write, I’m currently in love with Wunderlist (to-do lists); TeamWorkPM (project management); SpiderScribe (mind-mapping); and Evernote (for everything else! – including the initial draft of this post).
- Apps – whether on my smartphone, laptop, or web-based – help me feel productive.
- Apps help me create a framework for accomplishing my goals.
- Apps help me work in my business.
Do you see what I see?
Apps can help you and me play a bigger game in business and life. But you know what “team Jacquette” – the folks who’ve been an integral part of my re-engineering and re-branding exercise – helped me realize just by way of how we worked together?
Apps are not a viable substitute for strategy and reasoning.
For all the wonderful things apps help you and me do, “they” can’t ask thoughtful questions or provide a fresh perspective or help you list out and weigh the sacrifices every goal, choice and decision ask you to make.
On the surface, this seems so obvious. But think about some of the apps you use, especially those that fall into the productivity and lifestyle categories: What’s the thinking behind the how + why of your using the app? Or, are you blindly using them?
There isn’t an app designed to craft your vision.
Because apps may help you “see” but they can’t provide insight. Nor can apps replace the inner work that is required to think creatively about the future.
I know, I know…vision is one of the most over-used terms, especially in the business and coaching spaces. But it is also one of the best tools for creating and uppping your game-plan and ordering the steps you take to bring that plan to life.
Vision is what is helping me shift from the busy work of working in my business to the more strategic and productive work of working on my business (and subsequently my life)!!!
Where, in your life do you, too, need to shift from the practice of “working in” to “working on?”
Identify it, share it in the comments section, and then get to work making the necessary adjustments. This is one way to ensure you accomplish those yet to be achieved goals for the year…it’s one way to play a bigger game in your life.
p.s. so excited for my mention in this CNN.com piece!!
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