Oh, I’ll Have the Same

A good friend recently described this time of the year as the “silly season.” So dubbed because of what is unfolding as the 2012 presidential election campaign kicks into high gear. While his comment makes me chuckle, especially in light of recent events, I see an ironic parallel between the election season, the countdown to the New Year and what inspires people to seek my (or any coach’s) help. When people reach out to me, it is because they want help creating something different in their lives. I’ve never – ever – met someone who said they wanted the year-to-come to be the same as the year that is – regardless of how wonderful the year-that-is, has been. And when people vote it is presumably in alignment with their beliefs and values. Their vote is a simultaneous expression of both the solution/s that is “like” them and “different” from others. So if wanting something to be different is fairly universal, why does it often feel and appear as though we are universally saying, “Oh, I’ll have the same”? This is fine when dining with a group and ordering the same menu item. But outside of food…not so much! Yet, that is precisely what happens when the same goals keep appearing on the lists you and I create at the top of the year, year after year; or when you find yourself giving voice to the same problem/s over and over because things haven’t moved forward; or when your voting choices exemplify cognitive dissonance. Each time any of these (or something similar) happen, you are in effect saying, “The same...

Are You Making the Changes Growth Requires?

I started my business – Sterling Investment Management, Inc. – in 1995. The company’s focus today is very different than what it was when I initially launched the firm. Four years into it, I realized that managing money wasn’t my calling. Instead, my gift and purpose (and passion) was to help people demystify how the human complexities of money show up in their lives everyday. Whether managing money for others or helping them discover how to be better stewards and manage it for themselves (or be better educated clients if working with an advisor), I was always clear about one thing: I never wanted employees. I wanted to be a successful, multi-million dollar company of one. Read...

Can You Handle More?

I love birthdays. I view them in much the same way as most people look upon New Year’s Eve; it’s a time to celebrate the year that was and the one to come. I recently celebrated a birthday myself (woohoo!), and my friend and fellow Careerpreneur expert, Malla Haridat, sent me a lovely birthday greeting. Her note contained many well wishes, including one that really captured my attention. I cannot tell you how many times, since 28 November, I have pondered the portion of her note that read, “…all…the resources you can handle…” I immediately honed in on the word – handle – and wondered about the relationship between capacity and what we have. Said differently, is what you and I have in any given moment a reflection of what we can handle in that moment? Read...