Valentine’s Day is One Day; But, Love + Money Intersect Everyday

Awhile ago, I introduced you to my two friends, a couple, whom have been together more than 30-years. After this amount of time, some relationships can begin to look tired and weary, absent of demonstrative love, smiles, fun and joy. Not my friends – you can tell they are still each other’s best friend; that they truly enjoy each other’s company; and that they also probably have an active and steamy sex life. If you spend any time with them, it becomes pretty evident that they are in sync, committed to each other, and willing to be vulnerable. And as you know, achieving this trifecta is no easy feat. And let’s face it, few things tap into your degree of vulnerability the way love, money, and love + money do! Few things cast a spotlight on what is and what isn’t working in your relationship (including the relationship you have with yourself) the way the intersection of love + money does. Valentine’s Day, whether you’re coupled up with your boo or celebrating being single, is about love. So here are four (4) ways to embrace the sentiment of the day, and apply it to how you manage the intersection of love + money…today and beyond: Stop Judging; Start Listening. Epictetus said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” But when it comes to love + money, how much time do you spend really observing and listening rather than talking and judging? It’s far easier to do the latter, but the former will both provide you with greater insight...
“Who Loves Ya, Baby?”

“Who Loves Ya, Baby?”

I know, I know…not only am I having a corny moment, but I am really dating myself! But c’mon, it’s Valentine’s Day and you gotta love this vintage photo of Telly Savalas aka “Kojak” and his signature quote – “Who Loves Ya, Baby?” Today is the commercially designated day, which I admittedly buy into hook, line and sinker, for expressing love to and for others and letting them do the same to and for you.  However, I hope that you also let this day be one where you focus on another important love: self-love. Self-Love on Valentine’s Day? For some, it may seem sacrosanct to offer such a suggestion. But the continuous act of self-love is so, so powerful! Rolling your eyes (perhaps), you say, “yeah, yeah, blah, blah…you’re not telling me anything new, Jacquette.” Ah…but do you practice self-love on a daily basis when making choices and decisions, both large or small? Betcha I gotcha there! The habit of asking… What does self-love look like? What does it feel like? …is one I learned from my very first business coach, Laura Berman Fortgang. She pointed out the correlation between the quality of my choices + decisions, business results, and the degree of self-love I express in any given moment. Yes, it is a continuous work in progress. But imagine if you thought for just a split-second before taking any action – whether in the realm of romantic love, money, work or other personal relationships: “Am I choosing or deciding out of love vs. fear, guilt, shame (or anything other than love and self-compassion)?” POWERFUL, right?! So yes, on...